Spiritual Path

No need to feel sorry for any one. Every one is on their spiritual or evolutionary path by the choices they have made so far.

People who use words to communicate something to use are their for a reason. when they create a feeling of hurt inside of use they are doing us a service! This does not mean that people are allowed to be intentionally cruel to another being, but even if they are making that choice Karma, cause and effect will sooner or later balance this out.

So I am grateful to each person who shows me that they can push my buttons as I call it. If I get upset by something someone else says or does, I give away my power, my sanity, my peace. I give them control over my mind because I will keep thinking about what they said or did, I will go over it over and over again. Asking questions why are they so mean, I did not do anything to deserve this or that. This way of dealing with live will keep me in prison of my mind, will keep me under influence of their behaviour, like I said like a ball in the wind.

No no no!!!!! no longer do I make that choice!!!! If I am hurt it is MY FAULT!!!! I did it wrong!!! I took what they other said personally. I want them to see me as being nice, good, kind etc blablabla. Which sometimes they will do but only because they themselves want to be seen as being kind, good, nice, etc. NO no no. no longer am I going to depend on what other think of me!!!

I have to know what and whom I am. Accept myself in every moment as I am. If I feel hurt, I feel hurt but no longer blame the other as the cause of it! I look at myself and look at where I go wrong by identifying with what has been said.

If someone says I am bad! or I am not good enough, or I am ugly, or stupid, or whatever I have a choice what to do with those words.

A; I can take it serious, give it importance which will make me feel insecure, unhappy, and tremendously hurt, sad. This is an endless circle because we might be able to make one person stop hurting me, but they will be replaced by 10 others. Am I going to tell all of those people what they should or should not say? so that I will no longer feel hurt? or...

B: I can take a look why I feel hurt, sad, unhappy because of something someone else has said. Ask my self why do I find it important for them to like me? because I don't like myself! Why do I find it important for them to see me as a good person? Because I do not see myself as a good person, I do many things wrong and I hate that, I try to hide that!

The moment I accept that I have not such a nice thoughts about others sometimes is the moment that I start feeling good about myself. I know it is not bad to have bad thoughts sometimes, as long as we do not identify with those thoughts as being what we are!

Total Love for all can only be when we total love others and self. Others and self are all one you know! If we stop judging self we stop judging others. One comes with the other, there is no separation although most people think there is. Because my body is here and your body is there we think we are separated. Yes we see two forms called body, but they are connected.

Set yourself free! When you truly know who you are no one can control how you feel no longer. Is that not the best gift you can ever give yourself?

If me saying to you that you are beautiful and this makes you feel happy, I can also take that happy feeling away from you. That is not what you want for yourself do you?