When we do not know who and what we are will have long stressing implications. As long as we are not centred within self we will be searching each moment in each day outside our self to find something. Most people do not even know what they are looking for.

Yes, of course when they go shopping they think that they are going out to buy something’s they need. But it goes much deeper then that. There is an underlying stream which makes that we keep creating needs and wants. Put aside the bare minimal need to keep the physical body healthy and strong, all other needs and wants are created from not knowing what we are, not knowing self, but strongly living outside of self, completely enslaved, without knowing this is going on.

When we go out we go out with an expecting feeling, this expectation gives an existing feeling, a feeling which we make ourselves believe, makes us feel alive. Without something to look forward for we label those moments as being boring. There is nothing that stimulates our needs and wants which we experience as being boring moments, waste of life, and on top of this we start looking around and blame the person we are with. It is their fault, they are boring, no longer stimulating, annoying, working on our nerves, making us feel unloved, unappreciated, etc.

This is so far from the truth still 99% of the people live this way. 99% of the population in the developed countries live from one stimulation moment to the next. Always on the go. Always on the look out for something that will bring something into their lives.

Look around you, observe it. It is so easy to see. Men working, driving their cars from a to b, their eyes are wandering around, scanning the environment, looking for any kind of stimulation. If can be a beautiful woman walking the streets, a beautiful dream car, anything that tickets their fancy. Anything is better then being in the moment within themselves.

Most people do not even know this is possible, they will even argue that they are within themselves, where else can they be, what nonsense are you talking about! And of they go continuing what they have done from the moment they started developing the earthly mind. This is becoming a slave to outside stimulation, this getting lost in the outside world is a continuously repeated cycle given from parents to children.

When parents are not aware they will create children which will just like them become unaware. What we are we create. If we believe we are this we will create this. If we believe we are that we will create that. It is that simple. Slaves will create slaves. In the Bible it is written that; “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them (Genesis 1:23 27). We are all God only most people do not longer know this, they no longer are aware of that which they are; God. Instead they have gone astray, lost in the outside world no longer connected within them self, rooted within self. Now they still create, children, and create them in their own image, the image of slaves to the outside world, just as they are themselves.

Let me take an example out of my own experience, my own environment. Please do not think for one moment that I knew what I was. I was lost, addicted just like most people up until the age of 40. Then slowly I started to become aware, I started to wake up from the illusion, which I called my reality. I will tell you about my awakening later on. For now let me take you into an example which plays itself out within my environment at this very minute.

A young mother of 22 has a high need of socialising with her friends up to the point that she will be out and about a few nights each week. Her excuse for this behaviour is that she is still young and that it is the normal thing to do. Staying at home most of the time during the day to give the baby a stable environment turned out to be a very hard task, much harder then she had ever imagined.

Now while her lovely baby boy grows up within his first year he is taken all places at all times a day making it impossible for the young fellow to settle into a routine. The first few month’s the effect of this is not so obvious because a healthy newly born sleeps most of the day no matter where or with whom it is. Then we reach the stage in which a few month’s old baby starts being awake more and more but still in need of regular sleep during the day time.

This need for regularity is not possible and turns irregular when the mother has a strong need for outside stimulation. Not only will she never find outside herself what she is looking for, but she also disrupts her baby’s rhythm. A baby who does not sleeps enough will become demanding in the form of crying. It demands sleep, it shows the natural signs before it starts crying by rubbing its eyes, rolling the head to one side and relaxing into itself. Small but clear signs that the baby is ready to be put in a peaceful environment so it can recharge its battery.

Mothers with a high need for self stimulation will not have much eye for those little signs, they will miss them, override them with the result a crying, screaming baby. The mother wanted to go here and there but this baby becomes increasingly more hard work, interfering with what she wants to do. This had all kinds of effects on herself, and the people around her.

The crying of the child will take energy away from the mother. It is present within a baby to cry to secure its survival, it is the baby’s only way of communicating its physical needs. When a mother is able to read the signs of the baby the crying is brought back to a minimum, even with days of it not being there at all. There are baby’s who do not need to cry because the mother is deeply tuned into the baby. This does not mean that a mother with a crying baby is a bad mother. This is complete nonsense. Crying is there to make sure the baby is taken notice of when it comes to physical needs.

When those needs are met there is no reason for a baby to cry unless it has a physical discomfort in the form of cramps, dirty nappy, etc.
First mistake many parents make is not giving the baby the right environment to sleep. It should be safe, peaceful, clean and comfortable in temperature. It should be regular depending on the baby’s needs. Learning to read the signs makes that the mother has to focus her full attention on the new baby. It comes with its own instructions. But when a parent runs around satisfying its own needs the needs of the baby will come second place.
When a baby does not get good restful sleep it will start influencing the baby’s development in many ways and this will have

One of the things this young mother likes to do is drink which she associates with having a good time. Not so surprising knowing that her dad is addicted to alcohol and her mum is a regular pub goer as well.

The British culture has very much so integrated alcohol as an expectable part of daily live. For many people the Friday night is spend in a pub as an end to a working week. Many feel that this is a well deserved treat. Seeing drunk women is a very common occurrence within the British society. I was brought up in Holland in a different culture in comparison to the British culture. In Holland being drunk is looked upon by others especially being a woman.

Regular drinking did not exist in my environment while growing up. Drinking alcohol was only done on a birthday of an adult, not in a pub but in the family home with other family members and some close friends. And never to the point of drunkenness. Moderation was the motto, enjoy but moderate. British culture seems to be different when it comes to alcohol use. I have observed that many people drink to get drunk, as fast as possible.

I link this behaviour, this need, to the old days when British people where living in a very strict code of moralistic conduct, know as the stiff upper lip. You did not show feelings or emotions, all needed to be kept inside. Then on a Friday night all those suppressed feelings are let go of under the umbrella of being drunk. All breaks are taken off and all suppressed feelings, emotions starts pouring out as if a dam has been opened and the water build up behind it rushes through in a violent way.

This wild streak is definitely present within the British people setting them apart from other cultures. A kind of madness comes out ending up in all kinds of behaviour often expressed through fighting, aggression, etc. Madness created by suppression. When we can’t express ourselves in each moment we build up tension within our physical system. It is stored in our thinking center; head, in our emotional center; belly, and in our muscles in the form of contraction without actually using the muscle for any kind of movement.

Because we don’t know our self, we are totally unaware of this going on. This tension will build up and up until no longer held in. People who have not learned a high skill of self-control, known as having a temper, will blow, and they will take it out on someone or something around them. It can be anything that triggers them off into the letting go.

Mostly it is not that which is in front of them that caused the explosion, it was just the final drop that made the emotions pour out. People who have been trained through being disciplined by parents to a degree that they will not explode, will have to deal with ill health sooner or later. The price will be paid. All has cause and effect.

Tension has to be released some how. And the physical system can only take as much tension as it is strong. Ill health is nothing more then damage tissue, cells, atom clusters which have been under a certain amount of stress until they explode, burst.

The moment we know how cause and effect works, the moment we have woken up, become aware of what we are, we can play all roles within each society without it causing any tension within the physical system. We are no longer slaves to this society to our need and wants created within each society.

It is no wonder that the young woman I spoke of earlier on is lost, a slave to wants and needs. When I sit on her sofa and observe how her daily live goes on it is not hard to understand how it all works. A big size TV with the most amazing images streams information into her living room as soon as she gets up until she goes to bed.

Programs are adjusted depending if her little baby boy is in the living room. At moments the little fellow is in the room children programs are streamed down on his, one after the other until he goes to bed, only to be repeated the next day. When the little boy is not in the room the young woman watches Music channels or so called Soaps. On the music channels one video clip after the other streams into my brain. All are centering around sexual expressions of body and or language are used to do this.

Scenes are played out in night clubs, beaches full with dancing people, drinking alcohol and showing what a great time they are having. In the soaps scenarios are played out around conflicts based on sexual behaviour with all the jealousy and greed that comes with it. Screaming people are seen in almost all scenes, or crying people who feel wrong done by someone dying, or by losing some material thing or person to someone else.

What chance does this young woman watching this day in day out stand to breaking out of that vicious circle? Are we then completely unaware that what we see we follow? When this young woman does not get any other examples shown to her, how can she bring up her little boy without him getting addicted to outside simulation as well as deeply as she is?

How can we take it against her when she does not even know how it works, how she is kept into her addiction by the media, by the people around her who are just as much lost as she is? Did Jesus not say; “Father forgive them for they do not know what they are doing! (Luke 23:11 31). This young woman does not know the workings of cause and effect.

Yes, she knows the working of cause and effect in the outside world, she knows how to get what she thinks she wants or needs, but she does not know the cause and effect from a higher perspective, how it will influence happenings decades from now by what she does now at this very moment. How can we judge her? Should we judge her?

What would this judging do? I see how people around her judge her, condemn her, criticise her, telling her how she should or should not be, what she should or should not do. She has been criticised her whole live. Told what to do, what not to do, her whole live. This is the cause of her no longer knowing what she is.

From a very early age we start telling children what they can and can not do. Yes, we have the duty to keep them safe, but this privilege is misused by many. We start taking it out on our children when we are not balanced our self. When we are tired we become sensitive toward others behaviours even more then usual. Children are corrected constantly or not at all. Frustration within the adult is taken out on the children the weaker around them.

Listen how adults talk to children! Without judging them just listen, to others and yourself, observe and you will be amazed. It is easier to see it in others then in self. Ego will always make you believe that it is different in your own situation. It will give you reasons why it is justified to do what you are going.

Criticising this young woman is not the way out. Making her aware of how it works is the way forward. But how many people do know themselves? Do you know any one who has awakened?

Observing how the father of the young woman’s baby treats this woman is heartbreaking at times, and visa versa. They have both no idea how to relate to each other. Yes, they could have sex together, they could have a great drink together, often ending up in physical fighting with each other, they could take drugs together, go shopping buying material things together, but just being with each other without doing anything?

No way that is and impossible thing to do, doing nothing. Why is it impossible? they have never had any example by seeing others doing this not doing, not searching, not stimulating themselves with something outside themselves? Remember: “….created man in his own image….”.Children do what parents do. They repeat what they see around them. This starts from a very early age. This is how they learn to survive on their own.

The little baby sits on the floor and sees you putting something in your mouth. It wants to do the same thing. Not because it is greedy, but because it knows innately that it has to mimic those around him.

Have you ever sat still, closed your eyes, and looked around inside yourself? Have you ever arrived in that silent place within your physical body and met that which you are? I know we can all look around us, look at our body through the use of a mirror, or looking down at our body for as far this is possible, but did you ever looked at the body from the inside?

Truly experienced your physical body within? Probably not. So how can children who are born within this state, no outside world exists to begin with, no separation exists when they come into this world. To the baby there is no him and others, it just all is. Slowly bit by bit we bring the baby outside himself.

We call his name, we touch him, we give him things to play with, we play music to him, we turn the TV on so he has something to watch which will keep him quite which will be easier on us, giving us moments to stimulate us with what we wants or need to do, to get what we want.

To change all this we have to start with self. This world is not going to be a different place as soon as everybody else of which we think are causing all the problems affecting us. No, this world start changing straight away the moment we start understanding self, knowing self! Immediately a change takes place. No matter that others stay slaves, the way you feel, the way you see things, the way you experience people around you, it all changes instantly.

Only you, can make that your child does not grow up ending up being a slave to outside needs, just like yourself. Only you can change this. If you stay a slave your child will end up just like you, although you will try really hard to do a better job then your parents did on you.

Not possible. In the end he will end up being a slave. Ok he might not been beaten as much as you were. He might have had more toys then you had. He might have had a nicer environment to grow up in. He might have had more cuddles, kisses, expressions of love, then you had. But all that will still lead to the same point. It will all make him a slave only to others wants and needs then you.

You needed more love, lesser beatings, more affection, more acceptance of who you think you are, you need to be seen as a good person etc. Your child will be a slave to all the things you gave or didn’t gave to him while growing up. Different package, same effect.

Telling people will not do the trick. It is step one but many more steps are needed to balance the outside pull out. You can not tell an alcoholic to stop drinking by taking the bottle from his hand but leave him sitting in a bath filled with alcohol.

On the other hand you can not make someone see what you have come to see. You can lead a cow to the water but you can not make it drink it. That is up to them. When they become really thirsty then they will start drinking. Same with spiritual awakening.

Mostly people have to go through great suffering before they become ready to let go of that which they have become adjusted to. No matter how damaging the way they live might be, it is what they are used to, and this gives a feeling of security. Better stay with what you know then to let go not knowing where you might end up.

The more needy we are the less we can give. The giving of a needy personality is done in expectation of getting something in return. When this not happens the needy person feels taken advantage of, it has come short out of the deal, they are now even more needy then before, and will do anything to bring back the balance towards their advantage.

This is done through many power games played between people in all relationships. I rub your ego and you rub mine. I make you feel special and by doing so you might think that I am a good person and that is my reward. I will play the kind person so you will be kind to me in return which will give me a nice stimulating feeling because it was me that was kind first, this gives a feeling of control, of power, which in turn makes us feel good, alive.

How can a young mother who is in need of going out apply to the needs of her young boy? A needy personality will bring another needy personality into society.
The father of the young baby does not live with the young mother. He knows intellectually within his own thinking how the baby should be brought up. He tells the young mother about all the things she does wrong which will have a negative effect on their relationship.

While he tells the young mother that she should stay home with the baby in the same breath he tells her about him going out himself leaving her with the young child. This is a very common thing between people. We accuse the other of that which we do ourselves.